So here’s the truth of my life these days.
I have a wonderful husband of 14+ years, a growing-up-too-soon ten year old son and a mini-me six year old daughter.
I also have a bright-eyed giggling 18 month old daughter-for-now.
I haven’t talked much about our fostering journey here on the blog, mainly because, well, clearly I don’t blog much, and also because I am not always clear on how much I am allowed to share. There is certainly a mountain of confidentiality issues and I would NEVER want to violate the children in my care or their birth or adoptive families.
But this thing I am facing now is beyond anyone else’s rights/ privileges/confidentiality. This thing is personal.
This daughter I love, this baby I have raised since her birth is going to be adopted soon.
And not by us.
(insert actual heart-heaving here)
We have agonized over this.
God, please, please, please, PPPPLLLEEEEAAASSSEEEE, let us be the ones to adopt her. Give us a sign, any sign will do. Seriously, God, how about this? If I walk outside in the rain and get wet, we can keep her. Or how about if I go to church today and we sing that song about you making the orphans, sons and daughters again, we can keep her.
Ok, so I haven’t been quite THAT ridiculous, but if that is the “I’m-being-ridiculous-line”, then you should just assume I’ve been living in a place pretty darn close to there.
The short story of the past 18 months is this…
#1 We have fallen in love with this gift of a child in our home and
#2 We did not get the answer from God that we wanted. We have not had the necessary peace within to pursue adopting her. I don’t know why. I may never know why.
And my heart feels like it is literally ripping into tiny little pieces.
Oh, peace is tricky.
And grief is tricky.
And trust in God is tricky.
And she is still here, chewing on her favorite teddy bear and wearing her sunglassess and stealing our hearts.
“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is greater.”But I say unto you, they are inseparable.Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy,”
- Kahlil Gibran, as quoted in I Will Carry You by Angie Smith